why does spending way less than you make imply hating your job and being miserable? i dont think the idea of spending money as a primary mechanism for life happiness holds up. if you're a happy person internally it doesn't really matter if you use cheap hand towels at home or silk ones- it doesn't matter if you're eating filet mignon or chicken legs.
> hoping once you have a huge nest egg, you can make yourself happy!
this is a super uncharitable way of putting the ideas of fi. i would suggest the idea is more like "learn to view money as apart from happiness and recognize that the things that make you happy are more on the intrinsic side of things- self growth, real relationships with people near you, serving others and dont waste the time you have on earth by giving it to some corporation or other entitiy unless you want to"
> why does spending way less than you make imply hating your job and being miserable?
It doesn't! But some people believe that's their option. That you spend so little that you're miserable. And the job might only be something you endure to make money to someday retire.
We agree. I just may not have communicated that I was being somewhat "extreme" to make the point that "early retirement" doesn't have to be that way. If you re-read my #2 you can kind of see that I'm getting to the same point as you.
I have a small fledgling app that I've been making in blitz for a few weeks now and it's been a pretty lovely experience. The whole api abstraction they've implemented is really dynamite. What attracted me initially to blitz is that it's basically the only ways to do a nodejs app that's fully typed all the way through from db to templates out of the box.
imo a large keyboard is good to start with as most people will be used to having a large standard keyboard. what i've done is, using qmk, slowly updated my keyboard to make less and less use of keys that i wouldn't have on a 3x5 dactyl. it allows me to make my changes slowly but still develop the habits to get away from the number row and what not all while finding what works well for me
this made me think of what my take on "Cooking for Engineers" would be- roughly based on what I do personally.
essential gear would be a chef's knife, a stainless or cast iron pan, a nonstick pan, a large dutch oven, a sous vide circulator w a large bucket, a 10qt instant pot, and a vacuum sealer.
learn braising, roasting, sauteeing, and baking (veggies and proteins)
whenever you cook something where you can make extra, make a LOT extra, keeps a couple portions and vacuum seal the rest off and freeze them flat (keep your freezer really well organized)
find your core recipes and keep those perpetually in the freezer in small portions
learn to improvise and make gold out of whatever's in the kitchen (if you need inspiration, watch chopped)
The very first useful cooking website I remember was cookingforengineers.com. From 2005, it predates the nonsense the has become the typical clickbait recipe sites.
I also always loved the tabular layout that included both ingredients and actions in the same format.
Skip the nonstick pan and get a "black steel" (high carbon) pan instead. Matfer is a good brand but there are others. Fairly inexpensive, can be seasoned like cast iron, but is much lighter and more responsive. Super response on induction too. These are not pretty cookware but are real workhorses.
I'm perplexed by your reply; I definitely mean (black|carbon) steel and note it is lighter than cast iron. Never a problem making a pan sauce in a black steel pan.
Stainless steel or enameled cast iron is my choice for long cooking tomato sauces, although even plain aluminum won't be an issue for a few minutes contact.
My experience with pan sauces in carbon steel is that the acid in wine will typically start to strip the seasoning and leave ugly black specks in your sauce.
You are not doing anything wrong. Liquids with higher acidity will strip the seasoning. Avoid cooking liquids with tomato, lemon juice, wine, vinegar etc..for long slow braises and pan sauces etc.
To me there's a bigger question of: are the lattes or the 60k car actually bringing you joy? especially when had regularly? Most people if asked what brings them happiness it's quality time spent with loved ones, self improvement, or bringing other people joy- things like this. But then we forget about it and act like not having a latte regularly will negatively impact one's happiness over the long term.
I think you're kinda missing my point. First, the difference is not between the 60k car and nothing. It's between a 60k car and a 45k car. Yes, personal preferences differ, but it's pretty easy to spend an extra 15k on a car like that for things that have really marginal utility.
But more importantly, I'd much rather spend small amounts on simple daily pleasures that I enjoy. The lattes definitely bring me joy, and it's not like they are somehow taking the place of quality time with my loved ones or bringing joy to other people.
> it's not like they are somehow taking the place of quality time with my loved ones or bringing joy to other people.
Then we want the same thing. Genuine happiness. But try to see it our way: that coffee money could go to working 5 hours less a week in a decade. That could be quality time with your family. One the other hand, two years into that latte — you're hitting withdrawal by 3:00pm. So maybe your just as happy overall as when you started.
Some psychologists define two types of happiness, the “experiencing” type (enjoying a latte in the present) and a “reflecting” happiness (the joy of looking back on self improvement). They aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive
> hoping once you have a huge nest egg, you can make yourself happy!
this is a super uncharitable way of putting the ideas of fi. i would suggest the idea is more like "learn to view money as apart from happiness and recognize that the things that make you happy are more on the intrinsic side of things- self growth, real relationships with people near you, serving others and dont waste the time you have on earth by giving it to some corporation or other entitiy unless you want to"