You need to develop skills to become social and happy again. It's that simple.
You need a system. I used to be extremely depressed. My approach when I feel depressed is to write a "stop being depressed" plan and then follow it. My plan would start simple and get harder. I would start with my health, my appearance and my surroundings and then work up to addressing the problem.
I recommend you write a "stop feeling lonely" plan and try to follow it. Here is a good example of what I would do if I were you.
A template for a "Stop Feeling Lonely" plan:
0. Eat a breakfast of eggs and sauteed spinach with salt (something healthy)
1. Eat vitamins, Omegas, B-vitamins, minerals. Make sure it isnt a nutrition imbalance getting you down. Must be healthy.
2. Clean your room / house - begin gaining control and adding structure to your surrounding
3. Walk / go to gym / cardio - increase body temperature in some way
4. Make a list of 5 people, send them a text, ask to hang out / catch up / coffee / lunch
5. Try to have a 15-30 minute call with one of the people, ask how they are doing, see what they are up to, is anything going on? Ask for their advice, mention your divorce situation. Try to connect.
6. Repeat
I used plans like this to nearly always stop my depression. It almost always worked. The biggest hidden killer was the mineral deficiency. You would be surprised how missing a hidden nutrient or two can cause really bad effects. The solution is to ensure you are never running low on minerals.
You need a system. I used to be extremely depressed. My approach when I feel depressed is to write a "stop being depressed" plan and then follow it. My plan would start simple and get harder. I would start with my health, my appearance and my surroundings and then work up to addressing the problem.
I recommend you write a "stop feeling lonely" plan and try to follow it. Here is a good example of what I would do if I were you.
A template for a "Stop Feeling Lonely" plan:
0. Eat a breakfast of eggs and sauteed spinach with salt (something healthy) 1. Eat vitamins, Omegas, B-vitamins, minerals. Make sure it isnt a nutrition imbalance getting you down. Must be healthy. 2. Clean your room / house - begin gaining control and adding structure to your surrounding 3. Walk / go to gym / cardio - increase body temperature in some way 4. Make a list of 5 people, send them a text, ask to hang out / catch up / coffee / lunch 5. Try to have a 15-30 minute call with one of the people, ask how they are doing, see what they are up to, is anything going on? Ask for their advice, mention your divorce situation. Try to connect. 6. Repeat
I used plans like this to nearly always stop my depression. It almost always worked. The biggest hidden killer was the mineral deficiency. You would be surprised how missing a hidden nutrient or two can cause really bad effects. The solution is to ensure you are never running low on minerals.